When placing an profile it’s best to think about the kind of profile you would reply to yourself. Do not use all capitals, AS IT MAKES THE TEXT DIFFICULT TO READ and comes across as if you are SHOUTING. Plus it really doesn’t help it stand out. Notice that if we write this normally then we can make certain text STAND OUT by using caps, which is a better way of using capitals. Don’t forget that good grammar and spelling count. If you can’t be bothered to spend a little time writing your profile with no spelling mistakes then think what this says about you in general!

Also, include as much detail about yourselves as you can. People will want to know your age, your body type, your sexuality, your likes and your limits, your area, and if possible your picture. When you receive a reply you should always answer, even if only to say ’no thanks’. Don’t forget to be honest. Honest in your description of yourselves and what you really want. Honesty is prized, and there really is nothing to gain by being dishonest.

When replying to profiles, remember most people will want to know the details as listed above, but beware of picture collectors. Most genuine swingers are not interested in genital shots; a full-length picture should satisfy most. The only time genital or breast shots should be required is to prove endowment to advertisers seeking particular attributes. DO NOT disclose your phone number until you are satisfied that you would like to meet the advertisers.

We suggest having at least made photo contact (trade face photos) with the people you want to meet, as this will drastically reduce the chance of a no meet up from a timewaster pretending to be someone they are not. Unless you are seeking a one night stand you should make sure the people you are meeting know that there are NO GUARANTEES, and that sexual contact will only happen if you are happy with the situation. Sometimes it is best to meet for drinks only the first time, and then arrange another date if all agree Always meet where there are other people, but for discretion purposes do not meet too near to your own or your new friend’s home - the last thing you want is to explain to friends and family what you where up to in the first place...

One of the most annoying things we have all come across is dishonesty. If you meet someone new and find you do not like him or her, TELL THEM; do not say you will arrange to meet again if you do not want to. A simple sentence like “it’s been lovely meeting you, but I’m sorry, you are not my type”. This saves a lot of time and you would be surprised at how well people will take it.

If you need a bit of Dutch courage then that’s ok, but beware of going over the top. Nobody wants to swing with people who can’t stand up, and you men know the consequences of too much alcohol.

When all have agreed to have a swinging session it is important to sit down beforehand and explain the limits. At the very least, everyone should agree that if one person feels uncomfortable at any time during the session, they should be able to stop the action without any bad feeling in the group.

Especially if you’re a single male lucky enough to engage in conversation with a couple or single female.
Let them bring up the subject and don’t hammer the topic. This will only close the doors for any swinger activity and place you in a bad light for future correspondence with other members. Remember this is a swingers community and people will talk. (Where there is smoke there is sure to be fire)

Beware the phantom partner. Some single males will try the phantom partner technique to meet up with other members that are normally not interested in single men. But low and behold there will always be an excuse for the partner not showing up. Follow your gut, if you sense something might be off, it probably is.

Respect people’s privacy. What goes on in the company of your swinging friends is not the business of anybody else. If you really want to share your experience with others you should omit, or change, names and dates. Think about it, would you like others to tell their friends about you?